What Keeps Us from Healing

As a mental health professional, I get the privilege of sitting with people as they embark on their personal journey to wellness and change. By the time a client comes and sits in my office, a great deal of life has occurred. For many people, there is conflict, distress, and suffering before making the initial call to start therapy. There are plenty of reasons why people go to therapy, but the opposite is true as well. So, why do people wait so long before beginning therapy?   You think your problems aren’t big enough for therapy. You may even think ...

Cierra Collum Named Managing Director of The Brave Ones

With our 5th anniversary of The Brave Ones Therapy Center quickly approaching, what better way to celebrate than to expand our leadership team! We are very excited to announce that Cierra Collum, LMFT has accepted the role of Managing Director for TBO. In addition to continuing to provide individual, couple, and family therapy, Cierra is now assuming responsibilities related to business development and leadership of clinician partners. Cierra has been with The Brave Ones since 2018 and is EMDR trained. To learn more about Cierra, visit her profile on our Team page ...

Guidepost #6 – Wholehearted Living

“I’ve come to realize that faith and reason are not natural enemies. It’s our human need for certainty and our need to “be right” that have pitted faith and reason against each other in an almost reckless way. We force ourselves to choose and defend one way of knowing the world at the expense of the other” – Dr. Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection. If we wish to engage in our lives and in our relationships from a place of Wholeheartedness, then it is critical that we learn to tolerate the feelings of vulnerability that get triggered when we ...

Guidepost #5 – Wholehearted Living

“I’ve come to realize that faith and reason are not natural enemies. It’s our human need for certainty and our need to “be right” that have pitted faith and reason against each other in an almost reckless way. We force ourselves to choose and defend one way of knowing the world at the expense of the other” – Dr. Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection. If we wish to engage in our lives and in our relationships from a place of Wholeheartedness, then it is critical that we learn to tolerate the feelings of vulnerability that get triggered when we ...

Guidepost #4 – Wholehearted Living

“Most of us have experienced being on the edge of joy only to be overcome by vulnerability and thrown into fear. Until we can tolerate vulnerability and transform it into gratitude, intense feelings of love will often bring up the fear of loss. If I had to sum up what I’ve learned about fear and joy, this is what I would say: The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It’s our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows” – from The Gifts of Imperfection, by Brené Brown. How often is “not enough” or “never ...

Welcome, Cierra!

Taking a quick break from The Guideposts this morning to introduce you to our newest team member! Cierra Collum has rececently joined our practice as a Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern! Here’s a little bit about Cierra: Cierra’s passion for treatment is centered around reconciliation and hope for change. Whether that reconciliation is in your marriage, as a family, or within yourself, she helps her clients find the tools to thrive. She operates from a systemic lens, understanding that many factors contribute to our current internal struggles. Cierra works with clients struggling with anxiety, depression, feeling “stuck,” intimacy issues, coping ...

Guidepost #3 – Wholehearted Living

Today’s guidepost is powerful and one that a simple Facebook post can in no way do justice. For the purpose of today’s post, I’m going to summarize two main concepts behind this guidepost: Numbing, and Spirituality (from The Gifts of Imperfection, by Brené Brown). First, Numbing. Here are three key points about numbing that emerged from Brené’s research: 1. Most of us engage in behaviors (consciously or not) that help us to numb and take the edge off vulnerability, pain, and discomfort. [This can look like a glass of wine (or two or three) after a day of getting knocked ...

Guidepost #2 – Wholehearted Living

“When I interviewed women and men who were engaging with the world from a place of authenticity and worthiness, I realized that they had a lot in common regarding perfectionism. First, they spoke about their imperfections in a tender and honest way, and without shame and fear. Second, they were slow to judge themselves and others. They appeared to operate from a place of “We’re all doing the best we can.” Their courage, compassion, and connection seemed rooted in the way they… treated themselves” – Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection Perfectionism is a beast. And it’s one that we ...

Guidepost #1 – Wholehearted Living

“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are” – Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection Like many things, it can be tempting to view authenticity as an either/or characteristic – we are either authentic or we are not. We either let what other people think of us dictate our behavior or we don’t. And like many things, the truth is much more nuanced. The vast majority of us fall somewhere in the middle – and it ca…n vary from one situation to the next. When we view ...

Dare to Lead

Dare to Lead hits the shelves (and the Kindles) on October 9! I am so grateful and proud to be a part of the team of certified facilitators bringing this very worthwhile work to individuals, families, leaders, and organizations around the globe. Dare to Lead builds on the research covered in Daring Greatly and Rising Strong and applies it directly to the world of work and leadership. Which only makes sense, right? Because who we are is how we lead AND how we show up in our daily lives. In honor of this latest release, over the next week I ...